On Bravery in Motherhood

Nearly every single day, I watch my children push themselves physically.  Up the scaffolding bars, off the furniture, onto the exterior side of the playground equipment.  Every jump, climb, maneuver and sprint often feel like a new risk – and with every kissed boo-boo is a lesson in mothering.

My children are continuing to learn about bravery.

So am I.  

playground NYC

I’m still working on suppressing the inner helicopter and instinctively muttering the truly unhelpful “BE CAREFUL!!” – because there’s nothing greater than seeing budding resilience and earned sense of confidence with each accomplishment.  I  hope that my kids are learning that it’s OK to fall and make mistakes.  And it’s OK to not get it on the first few tries.

I’ve learned that if I don’t make a fuss over minor mishaps my children are more inclined to follow suit.  And if I’m prepared with essential first aid items, the return to play is that much quicker.

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This post is part of the HEALTHY ESSENTIALS® 2014 program by Johnson & Johnson Consumer Companies, Inc. and The Motherhood, who sent me a box of products and compensated me for my time. Opinions, as always, are my own. 



  1. i am the other way around, when i hear Brooke crying I run immediately.

    • I understand. I respond to my children’s needs as well, but am always trying to work on letting them learn things on their own. It’s a challenging balance for me sometimes.

  2. As a teacher I can respect both sides. The parent who is very hands on and the one who keeps a respectable distance. I think a balance of both is good. Children need the freedom to figure things out on their own and play is so very important for their development. I see it time and time again, children come to us with excellent academic abilities but their social and emotional skills are weak. Our goal is holistic development…this has to be at the forefront of our decision making. Monica, your kids are amazing little beings…you seem to have this motherhood thing under control…I know that’s not always the case, but from what I’ve seen and read, you are an amazing mama.

  3. It’s true what they say about the last child getting the least babied, or at least it is in our house. My son knows beyond a shadow of a doubt he’s loved and cared for, those things are just a given to him (and hurrah for it), but I’m also way less prone to go running when there’s a minor boo boo. My little one got hit on the hand in t-ball when he wasn’t paying attention on the base. Everyone ran to him so he cried, hahaa, not from being hurt but because he was startled w/all the fuss. I could TOTALLY TELL one of the moms there was mortified that I didn’t run to the base when everyone else did. Coach brought him over to me, and I put him on my lap for a minute or two and then told it was time to get back in there. He tried to play the, ‘I don’t want to play’ card and I told him matter of factly that the game would be over soon, so he needed to get back in there. He ended up getting a huge hit later in the game, and chattered happily all the way home about how great the game was… 😉 Note: If he’d have been really hurt, I’d have been the first one on the field.

    That being said, I do always keep a small first aid kit in my purse (you never know, and like you said, an instant band-aid on a boo boo makes recover so much faster), so I’m going to head on over and take a look at what they’ve got. Thanks for the resource. 🙂

  4. I completely agree with you…I find that the more you “warn” them or freak out at a minor “boo boo” the more THEY are likely to react that way! I actually have a VERY delayed reaction so sometimes, for me, it’s the complete opposite!

  5. Gabriella says

    It’s a really hard balance for me as I mom of six and I am so with you on this one. Kids like to look for their parents before they react.

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